Raquel Zak Goldstein
1995
* Buenos Aires
“....their nature is determined by their
sexual function. It is true that that influence extends very far; but we do
not overlook the fact that an individual woman may be a human being (...) as
well”.
(Italics are ours)
Freud, 33rd. Conference: "On Femininity"
In this presentation I shall consider the
metapsychology of woman's psychic reality during an essential period: that of
her passage from child-girl to "young woman", in the way of which
she becomes mother due to the inexorable pulsional forces that activate her
"desire for a baby". I shall draw on every day life and the mythology
of fairy tales to illustrate some aspects of this process.
I am speaking of destinies derived from the "unending struggle between
the sexes" to which both man and woman are carried by the unrelenting anxiety
of the psychic helplessness that is part of the costly -though delivering- acceptation
of sexuation. This struggle attemps to protect from the terror of helplessness
by re-installing "that prehistoric other", warranty of love and survival.
An ethics grounded on the acceptance of difference is a solid enough foundation
to soften that horror and preserve the possible pleasure that makes singularity
livable in the world.
The passage from child-girl to "young woman" that we are referring
to is a transit that culminates when the first becomes a “young woman-mother"
constituting herself -in that freudian “as well”, “auch”
in german- in "a human being", that from a feminine position undertakes
the pending process of constructing her own subjectivity.
The disconcerting and ambiguous "as well" from Freud's epigraph has
had complex and powerful consequences. Among other important historical effects,
it has given rise to several movements -related to this heterogenous and growing
discontent- that demand from psychoanalists, and especially from us women psychoanalists
our deepest attention. And we mustn't forget that Freud, as well as Lacan, posed
"a challenge" specifically addressed to women analysts, asking them
to speak about femininity.
On the other hand, we analysts have long acknowledged the relevance of feminine
sexuality, a subject that has been approached from different points of view
and that requires from us a qualitative and updated hearing. It is already time
we faced that challenge.
We shall focus on those two periods pointed out by Freud in our epigraph: a
first period, "determined by the sexual function" that leads to becoming
a mother, and a subsequent period that leads us to theorize on "the individual
woman" on which Freud wishes to cast a light and that in his own words
"may be a human being in other respects as well".
Becoming a mother
Considering the origins of the subject's psychic
constitution, it is clear that the road leading to the unfolding of sexual function,
fertility and adult erotism is significantly based on the specific efficacy
of "a special encounter" that is no other than the re-encounter with
the traces of the co-ordenates of pleasure of an archaic love, the "unforgettable
love" Freud refers to in his "Letter 52" from 1895.
Some universal metaphors stage this "special encounter" and express
it in myths, for example Sleeping Beauty and Snow White's awakening to life
after the "first love kiss" bestowed by the splendid Prince Valiant´s
meaningful apparition. On an edipic level, the prince embodies "that prehistoric
other" of the "unforgettable love" and is the renewed bearer
of that initial "effective action" that "instilled" psychic
life.
The "first love kiss" derives its potential from its recovery of the
traces of primitive erotism interwoven in the texture of "Dreams of love
and fateful encounters..." (pre-destined encounters?) so beautifully worked
out in Ethel S. Person's book "Dreams of love and fateful encounters. The
power of romantic passion" (Penguin Books, 1989).
This texture of "encounter scenes", of fateful, pre-destined encounters,
is part of the feminine psychic reality, and it lies in the topic of day-dreams,
the dimension G. Bachelard deals with as “La poétique de la reverie”,
P.U.F., 1960, and where Ethel Person places developments.
A second puberal-adolescent latency
Because of her indispensably "excessive"
identifying closeness to the mother (Raquel Zak Goldstein, "The dark continent
and its enigmas", Madrid, IPAC, 1983), the child-girl seeks the father's
necessary glance and presence to protect and accompany her entrance into the
psychic period of puberty.
This lasting paternal glance, coming from “a distance”, guarantees
the fundamental cuts in the imaginary to conjure the persecutory demons and
neutralize "the power" embodied in the phallic mother and always present
in the psychic reality.
In this field thus delimited occur the identifications that Freud refers to
in his 33rd. Conference, On Femininity. These identifications allow the child-girl
to place herself, invested as a lure (conceived as an "heir" to the
male's infantile fetish) in "the game of sexes" (Raquel Zak Goldstein,
"La mujer: de fetiche a señuelo en el juego de los sexos" -
"The woman: from fetish to lure in the game of sexes", Lima 1994.)
The game of sexes appears as the axis of erotic efficacy and one of the keys
to fertility.
The adequate paternal position vis á vis the child-girl on her way to
becoming a young woman is not sufficient to wholly neutralize the persecutory
aspects derived from the edipic images ("the mother-stepmother witch"),
aspects that inhabit her psychic reality during the "excessive closeness"
to the mother and which is consubstantial to the child-girl's identificatory
process.
"The sacred and the profane", two qualities intimately entwined to
the holy -and thus subject to profanity- dimension of the "body-continent
of the mother" are part of the backdrop of the fantasies that structure
erotic life, closely related to the loss of virginity.
These fantasies, supported by the constitutive bisexuality and infantile sexual
polimorfism, are addressed to the mother's body, re-encountered in a woman's
body.
A state of "second latency" arises in the presence of persecutory
fantasies derived from these edipic fantasies of profanation of the maternal
body that come forward when the child-girl in transit to becoming young woman
inhabits her carnal body. One of its metaphors, the "sting" that Sleeping
Beauty receives, expresses the disrupting endogenous hormonal throbbing and
the desired-feared phallic intrusion, correlative to these fantasies of profanation.
The Wicked Witch and the Stepmother are the personifications of the projection
of the evil, rejected and dissociate psychic aspects of the "happy world"
where the idealized "Royal family" lives. The punishment of the Superego
becomes effective through the sting the Wicked Witch predicted. Furious because
of the exclusion, she remains as a threatening presence until the young boy
and girl -in their entry into the world of the post-edipic psychic reality-
dare "face" her power by bringing together the split aspects.
"Royalty" is an aspect of psychic reality created during this defensive
schizo-paranoid organization for the preservation of the ideals of an identificatory
project centered on the generic myth of "royal parents, princely children
and promising future". Its consequence is that peculiar state of lethargic
latency illustrated in these two fairy tales.
This situation produces that inevitable and multi-determined "pubescent-adolescent
second latency".
It is a period of somatopsychic "fallow" that also affects the adolescent
male.
The persistence -as a pathological trait- of this "pubescent adolescent
second latency" may allow for another interpretation of feminine anesthesia.
The "psychic storm" and terrifying fantasies of rape -involved in
the projections derived from those infantile sexual fantasies of assault on
the maternal breast-body- may also express themselves as hypocondria, menstrual
and fertility disorders, frigidity, bulimia and anorexia.
The "lethargic latency", a truly somatopsychic "fallow",
is a period the pubescent girl on her way to adolescence must pass through to
prepare herself and enable her to "support" the new and subsequent
passages involved in the psychic processing and resignification of her whole
infantile sexuality and the dissolution of those splittings.
According to Freud, these psychic processes are part of the passage from voluptuousness
to the sensoriality on the road of the constitution of erotism and sensuality.
It is a key passage in "feminine erotic development", in the way of
also constituting her "carnal body" as a resounding case for her desire.
The singular meaning that her own woman's body holds for her stresses its quality
as an "imaginary-carnal scenery" of sexual life for both man and woman.
We can define this body as a "carnal body" alluding to this special
quality that her own body assumes in the woman's psychic reality.
The concept of carnal body refers to the notion of "somatic body"
while it becomes "an erogenous body" inhabited by the sexual desire
that "threads" erogenous zones. This moment also implies a normal
phase of "hysterization" of the pubescent-adolescent girl, as J. Mc
Dougall pointed out in her conceptualization in relation to an archaic hysteria
(“Théatres du corps” Gallimard, 1989.)
When this fundamental passage -that we could define as the process of "inhabiting
the carnal body"- is successfully concluded, the feminine position is effectively
constituted.
According to lacanian metapsycology, the concept of "carnal body"
rides between an imaginary quality and the condition of the real understood
as "that of the body which is not representable".
Let us now consider the maximum feminine challenge: how to inhabit the carnal
body.
Inhabiting the carnal body
Feminine psychic reality, inhabitant of carnality,
is -for that very reason- closer to the experience of the temporal and to finitude.
Man´s psychic reality has to face very soon in his life the tearing apart
and carnal loss due to the "radical separation from the mother" imposed
by early interdiction. This determines an ever-present threat of castration,
and its consequent masculine positioning leads him to inhabit, from then on,
spirituality and the symbolic universe (Freud: "Moses and monotheism",
1939).
Mothers "instill" that which is immortal (Freud: "Totem and taboo",
1912-13) and supports finiteness, while man "guarantees" the endurance
of the space of the symbolic.
Could this be the “invaluable social tasks” Freud refers to in his
33 rd. Conference "Femininity"?
To access the condition of "young woman", the child-girl must also
install herself and master the "time-space" during prepubescent preparatory
playing (in Winnicott's sense). She plays with dolls, founding a family “in
absence of the wicked witch”.
On the verge of puberty, the psychic effects of this complex phantasmagoria
lead the child-girl (already an orphan) to enter "a world of gray loneliness",
a "no man's land", dimension of adolescent life.
Cinderella, the forlorn orphan immersed in her melancholy mourning, as well
as Snow White hidden in the woods -transitional field of infantile helplessness-
or Sleeping Beauty, nevertheless protected by the powers of her fairy godmothers
that substitute the parents' lost protection, must face in this time-space laden
with the psychic quality we are describing, the threat of the return of the
dissociated evil.
The young woman trains herself in the experience of loneliness linked to the
sexed human condition and the correlated and forever threatening return of this
basic anxiety of the state of helplessness.
"Magic and Stardust" are the psychic phenomena that preserve this
complex processing and escort the exit from infantile mourning, always under
the hazard of pathological deviations such as fetichizations and addictions.
Then comes the "splendor of transformation", magnificently illustrated
in Cinderella and her world, metaphor of how somatopsychic plenitude, fulfilment
and wholeness can overcome misery and infantile-pubescent psychic helplessness.
The sex appeal of fertility
(The sex appeal Fertility song)
This "love call" phenomenon that accompanies as a song the "splendor
of somatopsychic transformation" -overflowing with erotic seduction and
the plenitude of fertility- grants Snow White and Cinderella the power to "rouse"
the male into falling in love through the beauty effect that comes from the
already consolidated "mother-identification": “...her attractiveness
to a man, whose Oedipus attatchment to his mother it kindles into passion”.
(Freud, 33 rd. Conference, “Femininity”, S. E. Vol. XXII).
So it is that "the kiss and love dance", reactivate eroticism's main
path: the mouth-eyes-genital axis, related to what Freud suggests in the chapter
"Looking and touching" from his "Three Essays..." (1905,
S.E. vol. VII ).
We can specify two different kinds of glance :
1. the paternal glance that sexualized the child-girl in search of his feminine
ideal is substituted for the "prince's" regard, who re-cognizes the
young virgin girl as an erotic object. Meanwhile, the father, if he can stand
it, falls as an impossible object.
2. the maternal glance that in the long-term excessive closeness of the identificatory
continuum, re-cognizes herself in the daughter's rehersals at being a woman.
An every day example is the repeated game of dressing up in mom's clothes or
the exhausting window-shopping or picking clothes, always with mom's company.
These evidences are suggestive of the preparations for the sexual function and
fertility.
The "first love kiss "
This legendary and effective love kiss "links"
-during the "day-dreamed encounter"- the experiences that activate
and seal the traces of the inaugurating thread of feminine erogenous zones:
mouth-vagina. This sets off an erotic reaction that gives life to sexual excitement
and fertility in adult love life.
This "link" arouses the power from "that primitive carnal jouissance"
from the "experience of satisfaction" that founded psychism.
In those times (not in a chronological but in a logical sense), and in the midst
of the "state of helplessness" the mother libidinized the baby when
she cared for its body, thus contributing to the threading of erogenous zones
that are to become the traces that remain latent until they are triggered off
and recovered later in erotic life.
The "first love kiss" inaugurates or better still, updates, this first
path of jouissance, the "disquieting" destiny of pulsion and marks
the beginning of what we consider the last stage of the freudian symbolic equation,
desire for a baby, essential for woman's destinies.
These destinies are partly bound to social expectations and definately connect
the "phallic desire" -last element of the symbolic equation as “desire
for completeness”- with the "desire for a baby".
Desire for a baby - Desire for a son/daughter
We can say that the "day-dreamed encounter"
in the period of adolescent-young woman is effective since it precipitates somatopsychic
phenomena already in "fallow".
Its effectiveness relies on the trace left by that first maternal "fertilization"
which produced the pulsional "disturbance" caused by the "experience
of satisfaction" that founded psychism.
We consider this archaic, mythical and humanizing moment as the shifter in the
Freudian passage from INSTINKT to TRIEB. It is also the necessary base for the
constitution of the erogenous body from the somatic body, and the warranty of
the initial processes of somatopsychic integration.
The "new awakening to life" promoted by this re-encounter refers to
the mother-baby binomy, the trace of which provokes in the young woman the desire
of "an indispensable and decisive reversion".
The young woman will seek the baby she was for her own mother in a "reverse"
version, now in the presence of "a man" who, from his desiring position,
will grant the process its prospective direction.
This is the dynamics that activates the "desire for a baby".
Some of the privileged psychic factors that take part in this process are the
powerful effects of the Freudian "symbolic equation" (breast-faeces-penis-baby)
that underlie the eternal longing for narcissistic completion; and the re-appearence
of the relatively forgotten transitional playing of childhood aroused by the
inexorable and renewed psychosomatic pulsional forces. These forces are that
basic Trieb effect that "emulsifies" -in a heterogeneous and unstable
mixture- our soma becoming the erogenous body of a human being together with
the representational order.
Afterwards, the "baby desire" must give way to the "desire for
a child" in a decisive turning point for both members of the initial binomy
(P. Aulagnier-Castoriadis, "La violence de l´interprétation.
Du pictogramme a l´énoncé" ed. P.U.F, 1975; D. S. Litvinoff
: "El deseo del hijo", A.P.A., 1994). This turning point depends fundamentally
on the factic and psychic effectiveness of that psychically present and desiring
man who must actively summon the "young woman-mother" -marking the
first step of the infans´ Oedipus- and re-installing her in her previous
position of "desired and desiring woman".
This paternal "cut" made effective gives way to a triadic oedipic
organization and strenghthens the diad's separation, the incest interdiction
and exogamy.
The young woman-mother must support a double psychic task that starts out during
childhood: she must "castrate" the imago of the pre-edipic phallic
mother to finally acknowledge the mother as “-Not Whole-”, and at
the same time "sustain" in herself the effects of this founding operation
of the subjective experience of her own incompleteness.
This central experience in a woman's psychic life becomes solid in the course
of different and renewed experiences of carnal losses and unbindings typical
of the feminine nature and specifically by the irreversible effects of giving
birth and allowing the offspring to live their own psychic life.
Repeatedly living this passage has allowed the woman to bear the slow shattering
of the fiction of continuity derived from her longing for completeness; fiction
necessarily and transitorily supported by the mother-baby binomy in the rearing
period, merged both in "a narcissistic mirror playing" evidenced in
the very significant freudian expression "His majesty the baby".
The previously longed-for re-edition of this trophic and narcissistic duet that
appears later in a reversed form is also the axis of the transmission process
of child rearing (Freud, "Totem and taboo", 1912-1913). It also provides
the young woman the setting in which to look for herself, in a reversed way,
in the playing that anticipates and prepares for fertility.
A meaningful remainder of this narcissistic playing of reciprocal mirrors we
defined as "reversible mirrorization" persists for some time in the
young woman's life, evidencing -in relation to her identity- her dependence
of the regard coming from the mirror-image.
The young mother has to experience gradually "the carnal unbinding and
loss" that occurs during delivery and the indispensable and increasing
separation from "her baby" owing to the breaking of the initial diad.
This cut, introduced and supported by the beneficial presence and actions of
the man-father, takes place while the psychic effects of symbolic castration
are consolidating within her.
This efficacy of the paternal function (“The function of the father”,
R. Z. Goldstein, New York, 1994), action which the young woman-mother must accept
and let happen, is an essential psychic operation for her as well as for the
baby.
This is how the baby is "forced" and "freed" to its own
desiring: it becomes son/daughter/child.
In this new context both of them are placed in a conclusive passage at the end
of which the baby emerges to the condition of son/daughter child, as "human
offspring" free to create his/her own DESIRE vis á vis the experience
of splitting and separation that comes hand in hand with this shattering of
the founding but illusory narcissistic completion.
This desire, weaving itself as a personal and singular fantasy, will turn into
a central psychic organizer.
And the young woman-mother, driven by the predominance of object love, will
re-cognize her own alterity and incompleteness.
Forced to simbolically castrate and castrate herself to be allowed to live,
she manages to "save herself" "saving" her offspring from
the dangers that lie in that uncanny diadic fusion.
And something else happens there...
The specific processes that prepare the conditions for that second moment -"becoming
a human being in other respects as well"- begin.
This baby desire, heir to the phallus desire (ancient claim from the daughter
to her mother and father linked to the traumatic admittance of "sexual
anatomical differences") is phantasmatically carried through in the process
of becoming a mother and in child rearing.
This desire yields as longing for completeness before the series of conclusive
and disquieting experiences of unbindings and losses which I take as constitutive
psychic operations of this decisive period in the feminine Oedipus.
It is only then that the full force of Symbolic Castration imposes itself on
the woman.
When the woman includes and gives her consent to the exercise of paternal function,
she opens the door to decisive consequences for her psychic life, consequences
that allow her to “be a human being (in other respects) as well”.
“...be a human being (...)
as well”
Freud (1933)
The coherence in multiplicity
The baby desire (that in the sequence of the symbolic equation is totally interwoven
with the phallic referent) recognizes, in its essence, the longing for appropiation
of this good: the phallus assigned to the penis. This is also the dynamics that
installs the woman in the lure function, a specifically feminine function that
invests her "as if" she were the phallus.
All of this composes a complexity that casts a light on the diversity and challenges
involved in women's destinies. These complexities impose on her the “unending”
task of providing coherence to the multiplicity that makes up her feminine position.
It is theoretically and clinically necessary to specify and differenciate the
baby desire related to the symbolic equation and to the reversion of her own
experience as a baby, a desire that temporarily establishes a correspondance
between the unborn baby and the baby the mother-to-be once was for her own mother
("...the transitional field of child rearing..." R.Z. Goldstein, Gramado,
1994), from the child desire that only becomes effective as such in that decisive
second period or moment, when the baby is placed outside the diad.
Only when considered a child does the baby become an "other to be discovered".
Needless to say, this situation grants positive consequences for both mother
and child.
The essential mirror-quality of the primitive symbiosis is discontinued at precisely
this moment.
Within the context of pathologies, puerperal psychosis is probably the clearest
expression of castration anxiety in a woman, an "equivalent" of the
castration anxiety Freud described in men. This situation marks the beginning
of the "second period or moment" postponed by the exercise of its
function in the transmission during the first moment.
The cut that inaugurates the presence/absence dimension and its conclusive effects
on psychic structuring (M. C. de Pereda "La estructuración psíquica",
A.P.U., Fepal, 1992) allows the mother to abandon her baby gradually but anxiously
because of castration implications. And the baby begins to "entertain"
himself with the help of transitional objects and phenomena, such as the ”play
of the wooden reel” described by Freud in “Beyond the Pleasure Principle”,
(S. E. Vol. XVIII ). Meanwhile, she tolerates that typical and "brief state
of normal madness" (A. Green, in “On Private Madness”,1986,
Mark Paterson and Assoc. edit., Colchester, England.)
This is the utmost experience of unbinding: when she´s able to accept
the relinquishing of "her baby possesion".
It is only then that the woman definately and decidedly faces castration anxiety,
understood as universal constitutive.
This is also the moment for the critical passage from baby-possesion to son/daughter-other.
After this unbinding, the woman who was in transit from baby pubescent orphan
to adolescent-woman, longing for the "precious object" she is "lacking",
will install herself -after this unbinding and in that specific moment- in the
search of her condition as human being, this time as subject pierced by the
implications of what we call symbolic castration.
Castrated and incomplete from then on, the feminine profile will say "I
am" (the phallus) while the masculine profile says "I have" (the
phallus).
Begetting and raising offspring, and allowing the offspring to live their own
separate psychic life, she may become and then be "a woman human being".
And in the never-ending dialectic of repetition and transmission, she (the young
woman-mother) and her own daughter will become part of the great game of mirrorization
that is characteristic of the very long and complex constitution of feminine
identity.
Meanwhile, the child-girl remained in the "indispensable maternal closeness",
habitat for the feminine identificatory continuum of impossible, infernal and
passional qualities. And this founding game will forge the "impossible"
coherence in multiplicity, typical destiny of feminine diversity.
All this while she acquires the needed knowledge to inhabit her carnal body.
And only then does she enter the road to becoming a subject for herself, in
spite of and against the constitutive conditions (“...determined by their
sexual function”) that placed her more as object than as subject during
that long "first time" already described.
This sort of carnal forge-melting pot-alchemy, typical condition of the diversity
of feminine position, is amazingly similar to D.W. Winnicott's description of
nuclear identification related to the purely feminine element (D.W. Winnicott
“Creativity and its origins” in: “Playing and reality”
Tavistock Publications, London 1971.)
This condition that Milan Kundera described as "The unbearable lightness
of being" is the essential task that the woman aprehends containing, supporting
and holding herself in the destiny of diversity.
If "the other" instills psychic life as "the primitive other",
that “other” is part of the founding unity Freud called “the
Complex of the Similar” ("Project for a scientific psycholgy”,
S.E., vol. I 1895). We may understand the original Ego and "the other"
-as the Similar- as "the parts of that founding unity" from which
the real and definite Ego emerges in a torn and shredded condition, in this
state of "...unbearable lightness..."
The woman is the transmitter because she remains immersed in that unbearable
lightness that goes with the primitive empathy (Einfuhlung) of the feminine
identificatory continuum, condition derived from the tearing apart of that "founding
unity".
This quality is a decisive contribution to her feminine identity.
We may consider that the culmination of the woman's Oedipus complex occurs during
this period of child rearing, and only then does it become analogous to man's.
Failures in this complex dynamics produce alterations that give rise to other
woman´s destinies: i.e. housewife or woman object, phallic woman or all-mother.
Man and woman, both of them equally fallen from "His majesty the baby's"
narcissistic altar and pierced by symbolic castration, will then seek "the
other" to build bridges and recover in the present that unforgettable and
prehistoric love from the beginnings of psychic reality, that of the re-encounter.
And from then on they will be forever involved in the task of preserving the
Similar, understood as the one that is "not identical", that is "alien",
"a someone of the other sex", to make love.
Torn just like the male during his awakening to the definite and real Ego, the
woman's difference consists, nevertheless, in the fact that she does not abandon
the empathic and carnal resounding.
Through day-dreaming she makes herself strong and so she sustains that unbearable
oscillation, a feminine position in which she expects the "other",
that human someone, embodiment of the Shadow of the Similar.
This "shapes the place" for an infans-offspring and for a man.
We can thus consider an ethics of desire and of sexual difference as the foundation
of psychic reality.
Such an ethics is the key to the preservation of that initial tensional difference
(Freud, “Project for a scientific psychology”) that as vital hazard
constituted -for love's sake- the psychic subject.
In this way, the ethics promotes tolerance of sexual difference and guarantees
stability for psychic life.
The “...individual woman...”, herself also facing symbolic castration
and already consolidated after that first time, will intend to inhabit -on her
own right- not only her carnal body but also her subjectivity and the world.
All of this to exist and “...be a human being (...) as well”.